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To ove is not enough, one must know how to love; that is to govern, direct and channel this feeling towards the daily performance behaviors that achieve the ultimate goal of love: to make the other happy.
Learning to forgive. Forgiveness is a great act of love. And it has two segments: forgiving and forgetting, which is forgiving twice. Only generous people are able to do it with greatness of spirit.
Do not have a list of grievances of the past. Prevent to express in the communication a collection of reproaches that were accumulated over the years, and contains a devastating, very destructive effect. In marriages who love well, these events are stored in a drawer and are never shown. And this is called self-control, ability to heal the wounds and leave them behind. Self-mastery is essential to the full giving of oneself.
To avoid unnecessary arguments. A basic principle of marital hygiene is this: do not argue. A strong argument rarely makes the truth shine. The debate shows more relief and desire to win over the other, that of seeking the agreement of the parties.
Avoiding long silences after a bad day or a negative and painful experience. Modern psychology knows the negative effect caused if a marriage is living hours or days without talking.
Having a healthy, positive and full of complicity sexuality in marriage. Marital sexuality is of enormous importance. Its neglect has very negative effects. Sexuality is the language of committed love.
Author and journalist Clemente Ferrer has led a distinguished career in Spain in the fields of advertising and public relations. He is currently President of the European Institute of Marketing.
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